One year on and I've finally relaxed into being a grandmother. I'm not sure why it's taken me so long. Most friends seem to have slipped into it with no problem, at least none they will admit; one or two have said when asked how difficult it has been, particularly when their grandchildren live at a distance that doesn't make regular contact easy. I'm not convinced however it's just about distance, for me it's been much more about defining my role and working out how to be a grandmother.
Gracie's first birthday weekend was the event that helped me shift from being very concerned about what I should do and how I should behave as her grandmother, to just being her grandmother and enjoying it. Heartfelt thanks to my son and daughter-in-law for helping that happen, and particularly to Kerri for letting me take over her kitchen and do all that baking! I loved every minute of it.
So if there are any other new grandmothers out there who aren't finding it all plain sailing and joy, my advice is hang on in there and you will get used to it. Time will help and one day you will feel you have accepted your new role, and what a wonderful role it is too.
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